Monday’s child is fair of face,
Tuesday’s child is full of grace,
Wednesday’s child is full of woe,
Thursday’s child has far to go.
Friday’s child is loving and giving,
Saturday’s child works hard for a living,
But the child born on the Sabbath Day,
Is fair and wise and good and gay.
I’m not actually sure I was born on a Wednesday, but considering that 2013 has been a balance between great accomplishments and stunning defeats- I can say for sure that 2013 must have started on a Wednesday! I’m going to dedicate Wednesdays to dealing with the things that bring me the most woe. Each Wednesday will be about goals, either short term or long term, and reporting my progress weekly. My main goal is not to turn every Wednesday into a woe is me, pity party for one, blog- although there is nothing wrong with those. But my goal is to remain positive. I’ll set a goal, I’ll keep you all updated, and I’ll be grateful for advice, encouragment and even a swift kick in the butt if I need it. So starting today- Wednesday is about working through it.
Because today is Christmas, it would be very easy for me to “woe is me” about being away from family, not having any gifts to open or being single during the holidays, while my unfaithful ex is celebrating with his fiancé before we’ve even filed for divorce. Believe me I have plenty of reasons to feel sorry for myself today and everyday. But I don’t- and I won’t. On the surface, my life looks like a mess. I’m getting a divorce, I’m unemployed, I’ll be homeless soon, and I have issues that seem to prevent me from “finding love”. I could easily succumb to all of the stress, guilt and tragedies that life has handed me… or I could, one day at a time, one step at a time, make the most of what I do have. Because under the surface, I have a lot!
If I take a moment to appreciate what I have, I can accomplish what may seem impossible. I am getting a divorce, and that’s sad. But the joy in it is that I won’t have to be with someone who doesn’t appreciate or support me. I am unemployed, and that’s scary. But the joy in that is that I’ve just graduated from college and am free to move anywhere in the world to pursue my dreams… MY DREAMS! I will be homeless soon and that sucks. But the joy in that is that for now I have a beautiful house, food on the table and a closet full of clothes, and more importantly the ability to find a place that is just right for me and those dreams I’m pursuing. I am dealing with a lot of issues concerning relationships; trust, abuse, sex, and self-esteem to name a few. But the joy in that is that I’m learning that I can make better choices.
Obviously I have a lot to work through and there is no better time or place to start than right now, right here. My very first and most important goal is to find a full-time job. I am planning on returning to my home state, to be near family and friends. So I need a job as a writer, photographer or marketing manager. I need an affordable place to live with a yard to accomodate my two dogs. I also need an equitable divorce settlement, to be free from the past. Once I have accomplished those goals, or even while I’m working toward them I can work on the other stuff too.
One of the projects I’m contemplating involves photography-
I’ve finally joined the 21st century and gotten on Instagram. What I would like to do is spend the month of January photographing things along a theme. I think that the theme should reflect something I want more of in my life. So if you’re reading this, leave me a comment/vote about which theme you would like to see me photograph. And if you are so inclined, feel free to take the challenge with me!
Once the theme is set, I’ll begin photographing things daily along the lines of the theme. You’ll be able to see them on my Instagram acherry67@Instagram.com or you can wait until Friday, when I’ll post them all here. I’m a firm believer in the idea that what you desire, what you focus your attention on begins to grow. Energy isn’t static or limited, you can’t use it all up. If you focus your energy on something, you can make it happen, almost by magic. It’s kind of like thinking about red cars and the only thing you begin to see on the road is red cars. It doesn’t mean that green, blue, silver or black cars aren’t on the road- but because you’re focused on red cars, they magically seem to multiply. Change isn’t really about magic or rocket science, it’s simply about seeing things differently.
I may not get everything I ask for, I might not get everything I deserve in life. But if I focus my energy, my time and my skills on something I can achieve it. One of my very favorite quotes is from the movie “Under the Tuscan Sun”, I love it so much I’ve created a tattoo around the idea of it. The character of Catherine talks about searching and searching for something and not being able to find it, because sometimes we’re just focused to narrowly. Sometimes when we stop looking for that one thing, we can see all the things we already have-